And here I am, wrapping up my work day in my home office and desperately wishing that there was someone I could invite over for a glass of wine and face to face conversation. I rack my brain, but come up empty handed. I have no one that fits that bill. In Denver when I wanted someone to hangout with, all I had to do was open my door. I had neighbors to chat with, drink wine with, rely on. Most of my best friends were within a mile away. Seeing them was easy.
So I need new friends right? Sure, just hook me up. If only it were that easy. I have found that making friends is a lot like what I imagine dating might be like. You meet someone, think you may have a connection, exchange numbers and have a first "date." The first date is awkward, you make small talk and see if you have anything in common. Is this is someone I can imagine spending more time with? Will she fit in with my family? Will she judge me for my messy house, the fact that I can drink more than one glass of wine, or that I allow my kids to watch TV? Most of the people I have met have been just fine, but the friendships rarely ever go anywhere, I have had a lot of second "dates" that never made it to three.
And now I'm tired. I don't really feel like making new friends. I think what I need is a Match.com or eharmony for girlfriends. Before I meet any of my potential "mates" I should have them take the following quiz:
- True or False: I enjoy spending time away from my kids.
- Multiple Choice: Your idea of a good girls night out is: a) Scrapbooking b) going to a poetry slam c) going to a vegan restaurant and drinking tea d) getting fancy and going out for cocktails
- When out with your girlfriends you enjoy talking about: a) Your inner child b) Your new BMW c) how gifted your two year old is d) The Real Housewives of New York
- True or False: You often find yourself complaining about how difficult it is to balance managing your full time nanny, your volunteer work, your personal trainer sessions, the weekly grocery shopping and overseeing your kitchen remodel.
- Your idea of a fun shopping trip is: a) Toys R Us! b) Costco c) Hobby Lobby d) Boutiques/consignment shops and Macy's!
- Our families are getting together you a) plan a craft for the kids, prepare organic snacks, and spend the whole time entertaining your children b) let the kids run wild, order pizza, drink some beers and chat with me.